People know now that they don't have a job for life and that if they take time out to recover, somebody else will come along to fill their shoes. Read has a good point.
Tiredness and fatigue: Why it happens and how to beat it
When I began thinking about this topic, I went through my address book, contacting the most stretched people I knew. One friend admitted that, the night before, her husband had been on the computer working and answering emails until 2. There's no way she'll talk to you. Why is everybody talking about it in private but not in public?
But, when you consider it properly, who can blame them? Who, in this current every-man-for-himself climate, wants their boss to think they can't cope, especially when there are mortgages andfamilies at stake? Who wants their colleagues to think they can't hack a bottle of wine after work because, frankly, they're just too old to cope with the consequences?
My friend Miranda not her real name, to protect her job, of course is a good example of this. She's Oxbridge-educated, sharp, smart and, with the help of a fantastic nanny, unconflicted about being a working mother. She adores her job; she's a coper. Her company is in the middle of a major restructuring programme, creating many redundancies. When I asked her how she felt right now, she replied: I leave my desk only to go to the loo.
Then the tube, an hour each way. The really lovely thing is seeing my boys early in the morning or at 7. But then my husband and I just drink and talk and sleep - then back to work again. It's stimulating work but one feels pulled, strained, stretched, no time to joke or chat. The main mode is irritability, impatience, barely suppressed rage, indignation. I don't have physical exhaustion, it's just that the ability to notice, relish, enjoy gradually leaches away. One feels oneself becoming poor company, all is inwardly focused. Going to an opera or play or even a film is anathema - these things need concentration which I cannot give.
Books are fine, however, thank God!
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Not cookbooks, though - or rather I read them as escapism while eating my Waitrose ready-meal moussaka. But is it really worse now? What about the war? Surely people were exhausted then? People were losing their husbands, for heavens sake. Read makes a convincing case for it being a fundamentally different experience, tiring in its own way, of course, but not the same kind of pervasive, life-sapping exhaustion that seems so commonplace now: There was a tremendous sense of the problems and the dangers being overcome together.
The threats were all external but they were facing it all together; there was a real sense of emotional togetherness, whereas nowadays the everyday threats to our lives are much less obvious. The emotional situations people find themselves in are more difficult to deal with. Will, a year-old classics master at a major public school, concurs, blaming the way we live in a globalised society, linked by electronic media: Everything translates to screen time now and that has a major debilitating effect.
And like many other people, I have a network point at home.
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I'm checking my inbox all the time, when I should be resting, and I get this feeling of isolation from it. Yesterday he worked all day, he came home for half an hour because he wanted to put our little girl to bed, then he worked all evening and got to bed at 2am. My own husband is no stranger to this pull. Last year, a month after he started a new job and we moved to a new house in an area where we knew nobody, we had our second child.
Our first was only 18 months old. The second wouldn't sleep for more than two hours at a time. I became exhausted by this and by having a toddler who did not allow me to catch up during the day even though I had help. I eventually got ill. So far, so normal. My husband was determined to help. He got up in the middle of the night when I couldn't manage it, but it took its toll. He became exhausted by the dual pressures. When he got the chance to rest on holiday, his body crashed.
In retrospect, of course, it is ridiculous that my husband felt compelled to get up. But, as he explains: I couldn't be that person to myself. So we were both to blame for the sorry state we got ourselves into, but both of us were responding to a change in society's notion of parenthood. When I told a much older friend this story, a wise mother of two generations of children from two marriages, she was uncomprehending: Two generations ago, Peter and I would have gone out on walks together at the weekend, knowing that our children were happily playing on their own.
As a child, I was always down the railway line, playing with other children, which is, after all, what children want to do. Something can always be done to make pain better. Talk to your doctor or nurse to get more information about treating cancer pain. People with cancer go through a lot of different, unpleasant emotions. These uncomfortable feelings are often called distress. Distress can include a feeling of sadness about the loss of good health or fear of what will happen in the future.
But sometimes the distress becomes so great that it causes physical problems like fatigue. Depression and anxiety are common types of distress that can cause or worsen fatigue. These sleep changes can lead to fatigue. Many medicines can cause fatigue and problems with thinking. This includes certain over-the-counter drugs and possibly herbs and other supplements, as well as prescription medicines. The drugs most likely to cause fatigue are:. Some of these drugs can also make you feel sleepy. The degree of sleepiness varies from person to person.
Taking many drugs that have a lot of side effects can make fatigue worse, too. Keeping track of everything you take, along with the doses, times, and when you have symptoms, might help you figure out which ones may be part of your fatigue. Examples of other medical problems that could be part of fatigue are:.
If needed, your doctor can test you to find out if any of these are making your fatigue worse.
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What is fatigue?
Table of contents What is fatigue? Causes Medical causes Diagnosis Treatment Chronic fatigue syndrome. Fast facts on fatigue and tiredness: Fatigue is also known as tiredness, reduced energy, physical or mental exhaustion, or lack of motivation. Causes of fatigue can be psychological, physiological, and physical. To diagnose the reasons for fatigue, a doctor will ask questions and take a sleep history, and may perform a physical examination and blood and urine tests. Treatment is focused on the underlying cause of tiredness.