This explains the unspoken promise detectable between the lines of almost every baby manual: Will you be ready when that big moment — and that little bundle — arrives? Other authors promise to eliminate the uncertainty inherent in the situation by making inexcusably specific claims about how things will unfold. Typically for the genre, The Wonder Weeks tries to reassure readers these stages will unfold naturally, while strongly hinting there are specific things parents must do to make them go well.
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But it is difficult to imagine anything more profoundly reassuring to the first-time parent of a one-week-old than the possibility that they might. This same urge to recast a baby as something fundamentally mundane and familiar suffuses the debate over sleep, where hostilities between the Baby Trainers and the Natural Parents are most acute. Or we could respond within seconds to every cry, sharing our bed with our baby, resigning ourselves to years of multiple nighttime wakings for breastfeeding, all of which the Natural Parents felt was the least a loving mother ought to do, not to mention the instinctive thing all mothers had been hardwired to do — but which the Baby Trainers warned would lead to brain-dead parents unable to properly discharge their duties, plus a maladjusted child incapable of spending five minutes in a different room from them, and probably also divorce.
In reality, there is no persuasive scientific evidence of long-term harm from sleep training; I lost count of the number of times I followed a link or footnote provided by one of the Natural Parents, only to find a study about rats, or babies raised in environments of severe and chronic neglect, such as Romanian orphanages.
At their worst, the Baby Trainers seemed to suggest that my son was best thought of as an unusually impressive dog, who could be trained, using behavioural tricks, to do what we wanted: But the Natural Parents employed an even more outlandish analogy: It was obvious to me that our son was neither a dog nor a miniature adult, yet each analogy had its appeal.
Eventually, around six months, after agonising over the question for several weeks, we decided to try sleep training. We re-read the relevant chapters, assembled the alcohol we planned to use to suppress our instinct to intervene during the inevitable hours of screaming that the books foretold — and steeled ourselves to feel like monstrous parents.
But more strangeness was in store: I spent much of the night awake, convinced something must be terribly wrong. None of the books had suggested this turn of events; my son appeared to be following an entirely different manual of instructions. P eople have been dispensing baby-rearing guidance in written form almost since the beginning of writing, and it is a storehouse of absurd advice, testifying to the truth that babies have always been a source of bafflement.
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New mothers have been advised to smear their newborns daily in butter or lard, or to ensure that they were always put to sleep facing due north. Whiskey and even morphine were frequently recommended as solutions to the pain of teething. The genre expanded greatly during the 19th century, as urbanisation and industrialisation broke apart the extended families through which advice had previously been communicated, from grandmothers, mothers, and aunts — and as male paediatricians, who were starting to preside over a field traditionally dominated by midwives, sought to burnish their authority with parenting systems bearing the hallmarks of modern science.
Today, their advice seems horrifyingly chilly: Less physical contact meant less chance of communicating dangerous diseases, and there was a psychological rationale for not getting too emotionally invested in any one child. Child mortality began to decline precipitously from the turn of the century, and with it, the life-or-death justification for this kind of advice. But the result was not a new generation of experts urging parents to relax, on the grounds that everything would probably be fine.
But they were still half a century away. Instead, the anxiety that had formerly attached itself to the risk of a child dying took a more modern form: Thus began the transformation that would culminate in the contemporary baby-advice industry. With every passing year, there was less and less to worry about: Yet the anxiety remains — perhaps for no other reason than that becoming a parent is an inherently anxiety-inducing experience; or perhaps because modern life induces so much anxiety for other reasons, which we then project upon our babies.
P erhaps it was inevitable that this process, made possible by the advance of medicine, should end with a crop of parenting philosophies rooted in the passionate conviction that the era of modern science and technology has led us astray. After all, what if we ought to be doing it? Admittedly, the story of its origins inspired little confidence.
In the s, I learned, a part-time model from Manhattan named Jean Liedloff met a beguiling European aristocrat who persuaded her to accompany him on a trip to Venezuela in search of diamonds. William and Martha Sears, and their paediatrician sons James, Robert and Peter, have now published more than 30 books between them. Why assume that childcare practices that predate modernity are inherently superior? Even if they were, why assume they still would be when transplanted into an environment for which they were not designed?
Attachment parenting plays on a theme familiar in self-help: Apart from being disingenuous, this fails to quell anxiety anyway. The Searses, in any case, have another agenda: Many critics have pointed out that strict adherence to their advice is essentially impossible for mothers with jobs — which sends an implicit message that a working mother is not a good one. This is a relatively recent phenomenon: But in any case, the problem with this is hiding in plain sight: Yet almost every human in history has been raised without the insights of almost every book of parenting advice ever published.
But the three sisters are getting on in years and need help caring for their assortment of seals, fish, mermaids, birds, and other sea creatures. So they decide to kidnap some children to be their assistants. Minette and Fabio, confused at first, grow to love the Island and its many unusual creatures.
They keep putting off their escape back to their troubled homes. When Lambert uses his cell phone to call his father, the whole Island way of life is threatened by Mr. Her mother was a playwright and her father a scientist, but the marriage was unhappy and they soon went their separate ways. Eva switched languages and spent the rest of her childhood in a progressive boarding school, striving to become British. After taking a degree in Physiology at London University, she went on to do research at the University of Cambridge, but she found the experiments she had to perform on living animals very distressing.
The couple moved to Newcastle, in the north of England, where they raised four children and Eva began writing short stories. When the youngest son started school, she wrote her first full-length novel for children and continued to write for children and adults alternately, much to the delight of her many readers. James and the Giant Peach by Roald Dahl, illus. Plotkin and Lynne Cherry HC: The National Trust The National Trust is an organization dedicated to the preservation of the countryside, coastline, and important buildings and gardens in England, Wales, and Northern Ireland.
This site lists interesting places to visit. Look up maps of London and the Amazon River. Search the sea around the British Isles for places where the Island might be found. Magical beings are central to many of your books. Have you always been interested in the supernatural?
No, curiously I was never particularly interested in the supernatural — quite the contrary. I think I began to write about ghosts and witches and magic generally to make children less afraid; to turn these beings into creatures much like us but of course able to do more interesting things. My ghosts and witches are more like underdogs, people on the fringes who need sympathy and help.
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Your main characters all seem to come up against people who are more interested in money and power than in feelings and compassion. Is this a theme you consciously set out to explore in every book?
I think of my books as entertainments, a kind of present I give the reader, and any serious themes that come up are a by-product. Humor is an important element in most of your stories. What do you think is the role that humor plays in shaping our lives and our personalities? But I do know that both in my personal life and in my work I would be completely lost without humor…without the ability to turn things upside down, to extract something ridiculous out of the most solemn moment. In Journey to the River Sea you have written a more realistic story with a strong theme about the importance of nature to the human spirit.
What was your inspiration for this story?
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I wrote Journey to the River Sea not long after my husband died. He was a committed naturalist, someone who combined a deep knowledge of animals and plants with a spiritual outlook that had been strengthened by his war service in India and Burma. I think I felt at that time that I needed a rest from my usual fantasy stories — though goodness knows the Amazon landscape is fantastical enough in its own right!
I wanted to write a story that was simple and old-fashioned and direct. But I have to say that the reasons one gives for writing anything tend to be made up afterwards.
At the time you just find yourself doing it! About the Book Island of the Aunts Etta, Coral, and Myrtle tend to the needs of a number of remarkable creatures on the Island, a place forgotten by most people — and they are very happy to keep it that way. Gulliver Books The National Trust The National Trust is an organization dedicated to the preservation of the countryside, coastline, and important buildings and gardens in England, Wales, and Northern Ireland.
Compare the different reactions to nature of these characters: Carter and Miss Minton; Mr.